Find that Mr or Ms Right for You

Dating as Christian can be very tricky, it is usually difficult to have a healthy courtship that can lead to a sustainable marriage because of the pressure that can be put on couples to marry. There is a saying that says not all the glitters is gold. Naturally things the are beautiful or shiny easily catch the eye and tug at our heart strings convincing us to love them at first sight. After careful attention though it becomes obvious that the value was misplaced as it goes to proves its real value and that it was never the gold you thought it was. I want to relate this scenario to when a person is choosing a life partner particularly in the church.

We find people marrying people just because they are popular in their church circles. Our youth chairpersons, praise & worship leaders, evangelist and pastors in the spotlight are usually seen as the perfect partners for anyone wanting to marry. It is easy to love someone because of their powerful voice, anointed sermons or flashy car, great suits or even dimples on their faces. These are great traits to have but they are not the only things to lookout for.

A persons reputations is not what you will be sleeping and waking up with everyday or raising your family with but it is their character. A reputation is what a person is popularly know as or for among people whereas the character is the way they carry themselves daily.

When we were in the youth services the youth pastors would usually advise to us to pray & draw-up a checklist of the things we would like our potential husbands/wives to have. These did not necissisarily have to be material things but also spiritual and character traits that one would appreciate in a life partner. For instance one could have

• God fearing
• Short
• Funny
• Prayerful
• Educated
• Athletic with a 6 pack

So when an educated but tall, grumpy, non believer with a big belly(1 pack) comes along ungadideki (not be confused) & you can ask them to look somewhere else because you are not compatible with them. If you don’t know your preference it is easy you keep changing and swapping partners aimlessly in life.

Its is easy to list what a person wants and does not want in their Mr/Ms Right but we often leave ourselves out of the equation. We don’t turn and use that same checklist on ourselves to see if we are working towards being the right person for this our desired partner. While you wait for that partner work on yourself as well. The right character is built daily as a person grows in the love of God and by applying the Word of God in their lives. When we start to work on ourselves according to Gods Word we slowly become to right type of person for someone to meet. Be it a life partner or our work places or even our communities.